This is a very basic description of the stages through which a grieving person may pass, and more recently this basic model has been expanded to make it more comprehensive and detailed, and also refined to make it feel less mechanistic.
The DualProcessModel by Stroebe and Schut looks at two sorts of activities in grief: those that are loss oriented and those that are restoration oriented.
This model shows how moving between two processes (and spending time in both) is a normal part of experiencing bereavement. Grieving, crying, thinking about the person who has died and feeling different emotions like anger or guilt. Sorting out a will or any financial or property issues.
The DualProcessModelof Coping with Bereavement is a tax-onomy to describe ways that people come to terms with the loss of a close person. Originally developed to understand coping with the death of a partner, it is potentially applicable to other types of bereavement.
This model identifies two types of stressors, loss- and restoration-oriented, and a dynamic, regulatory coping process of oscillation, whereby the grieving individual at times confronts, at other times avoids, the different tasks of grieving.
Allows space for Clients to Confront their Problems of coping with Bereavement and to find rest from Bereavement (Stroebe & Schut, 1999; Larsen et al., 2024) Helps Identify Complicated Grief Experiences (Stroebe & Schut, 2016) Encourages Individual and Systemic Attention in Counseling Sessions
So current thinking on grief encompasses both the letting go of bonds, and holding on to the attachment. This seems to reflect the actual experience of the grievingprocess.
PDF | The Dual Process Model of Coping with Bereavement (DPM; Stroebe & Schut, 1999) is described in this article.